About Me:

Aloha! I'm Wendy Kennar. I'm the mother of a seven-year-old son and a wife living in Los Angeles. I was a public school teacher for twelve years until a chronic medical condition made it necessary to leave my teaching career.

I've always been described as "quiet" - really, I'm just biting my tongue. I've got lots to say, and lots of thoughts to share, I just prefer to write them. That's the purpose of this blog. Each Wednesday, I post a personal essay offering my observations and thoughts.

A few fun facts about me: I've wanted to be a writer since second grade, when my teacher, Mrs. Jones, made me a "book" with a yellow construction paper cover. I have never learned to whistle, have always preferred sunflowers to roses, and have spent my life living within the same zip code.

Through the years, my writing has been published in the Los Angeles Times, Christian Science Monitor, United Teacher, GreenPrints, L.A. Parent, DivineCaroline.com, RoleReboot.org, XOJane, and Brain, Child Magazine. Additionally, my personal essays have been included in several anthologies, including: The Barefoot Review, Beyond the Diaper Bag, Lessons From My Parents, Write for Light, Being a Grown-Up: A User's Manual for the Real World, Ka-Pow!, How Writing Can Get You Through Tough Times, Breath and Shadow, The Grey Wolfe Storybook, and Sisters Born, Sisters Found.
I am a regular contributor at MomsLA.com, and you can also find me at Goodreads.

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Wednesday, September 21, 2011


   My son has two Mr. Tickle dolls.  He called them brothers.  He knows about brothers from some reliable sources.  His nephews are brothers.  Mario and Luigi are brothers.  And Elmo’s friend, Mr. Noodle, has a brother, conveniently also named Mr. Noodle.
   Ryan asked me who his brother was.  I told him he didn’t have a brother, but he did have lots of people who loved him.  And I started listing them.  But he interrupted me.  He said his brother was on Mommy’s computer, in PhotoBooth.  That’s where he sees “two Ryan’s.”
   There’s the part of me that recognizes this brief conversation as exactly what it is - an adorable interchange between a son and mother, a chance for my son to make connections with new words and familiar experiences in his life.  But, there’s the part of me that jumped ahead, and wondered if my son will ever present me with the real question, “Why doesn’t Ryan have a brother?”
   Before my husband and I decided to start our family we were constantly asked when we were having a baby.  Now that my son is 3 1/2 years old, the question has become, “When are you giving him a brother or a sister?”
   The answer is, “We’re not.”  
   I certainly don’t have all the answers about life, but I knew enough about myself to acknowledge that I wasn’t ready to be a mom for a while.  And now, I’m wise enough to admit that my marriage and our current family dynamic will not function successfully if we have another child.
   The older I’m getting, the more I’m realizing that I can make all the plans I want, but life is going to happen regardless of my plans.  So, ten years ago if you had asked me how many children I would have, I would have confidently answered, “Two.”  That was then.  
   Now, I am the mother of an only child.  An only child who has an endless supply of love surrounding him.  
   My son is an only child - just like Elmo.  And look how happy and loved Elmo is!


  1. One just never knows how life will turn out no matter how much you plan.You should not feel guilty about Ryan being an only child as he is loved by so many people and he knows he is loved.Just because one has a brother or sister does not make them any happier and sometimes they wind up not being close at all.You are doing a truly wonderful job in raising Ryan and he is so lucky to have you for his mommy.He is a very happy child.I love you and I am so proud of you.

  2. I include myself in the list of people who love your son and his mother. Ryan is an intelligent, thoughtful person who is very easy to be with. I predict he will have a wonderful life. Your Mother & I are proud of you.

    Love, Dad

  3. It's not others' business whether or not you have multiple children. They aren't in your shoes and have no idea what the real situation is. You're an amazing mom with beautiful, smart, little boy. He is surrounded by people who love and adore him. It's more than enough.

  4. You do not owe anyone an explaination of your home life. Ryan will grow up to know that he is surrounded by many people who love him and will support him no matter what. You and Paul are amazing parents and have been so strong through everything. I love you both so much.

  5. Honey,
    I am proud of the way we are raising our son.
    I Love You!