About Me:

Aloha! I'm Wendy Kennar. I'm the mother of a seven-year-old son and a wife living in Los Angeles. I was a public school teacher for twelve years until a chronic medical condition made it necessary to leave my teaching career.

I've always been described as "quiet" - really, I'm just biting my tongue. I've got lots to say, and lots of thoughts to share, I just prefer to write them. That's the purpose of this blog. Each Wednesday, I post a personal essay offering my observations and thoughts.

A few fun facts about me: I've wanted to be a writer since second grade, when my teacher, Mrs. Jones, made me a "book" with a yellow construction paper cover. I have never learned to whistle, have always preferred sunflowers to roses, and have spent my life living within the same zip code.

Through the years, my writing has been published in the Los Angeles Times, Christian Science Monitor, United Teacher, GreenPrints, L.A. Parent, DivineCaroline.com, RoleReboot.org, XOJane, and Brain, Child Magazine. Additionally, my personal essays have been included in several anthologies, including: The Barefoot Review, Beyond the Diaper Bag, Lessons From My Parents, Write for Light, Being a Grown-Up: A User's Manual for the Real World, Ka-Pow!, How Writing Can Get You Through Tough Times, Breath and Shadow, The Grey Wolfe Storybook, and Sisters Born, Sisters Found.
I am a regular contributor at MomsLA.com, and you can also find me at Goodreads.

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Wednesday, July 30, 2014

A Pisces Princess, No Matter What

               I’ve changed my mind.  Or maybe I should say, I’ve finally made up my mind.  For a while now, I’ve been thinking about getting a tattoo.  I’ve talked about it with my loved ones, I’ve written about it, but I hadn’t acted on it.  (In case you missed it, here’s the link to my blog post about the reasons why I was thinking of getting a tattoo:  http://wendykennar.blogspot.com/2013/04/taking-back-my-legs.html)

   My legs have been out of my control for four years now, yet a tattoo was something I would have total control over.  I also wanted a permanent reminder that I was a “Pisces Princess.”  Like many women I know, I’m quick to put the needs of others before my own, quick to try to compliment someone else while criticizing myself.  I know I shouldn’t do those things, and I thought a visual reminder would help me make changes in my daily life that would influence me to behave differently and thus see myself in a different light.  (Here’s the link to my blog post where I outlined the steps necessary for living like a Pisces Princess:   http://wendykennar.blogspot.com/2013/12/protocol-for-pisces-princess.html)

   I’ve always been too-critical of myself, and within the last few years, I’ve see-sawed between becoming even harder on myself and finally lightening up and treating myself more gently.  But in the last few weeks, I’ve experienced increased levels of pain and exhaustion.  With that comes increased levels of unhappiness and self-criticism.  

   I certainly wasn’t treating myself like a Pisces Princess.  And then it occurred to me.  Having the tattoo wouldn’t change my mindset.  For several weeks, I’ve been wearing a pendant attached to my anklet -- a pendant resembling the Pisces symbol.  It was my “try-out,” until I made a decision about the tattoo.  I saw the anklet, I knew what it represented, but it didn’t change the fact that I was putting myself down.  And I knew then that a tattoo wasn’t the answer.  

   I realized that a tattoo would mean an extra expense and extra pain but wouldn’t guarantee that I would start treating myself more gently.  There’s really no magic charm to ward off feelings of inadequacy and self-pity.

   So even without the tattoo, I know I am a Pisces Princess.  Whether I feel like it or not.  


  1. You are an exceptional person and please believe that.I wasn't happy to learn you wanted a tattoo as I didn't want you to have any more pain that you do.I like what you did with the anklet and I think it looks really good.Please try and stop being so hard on yourself.You are a beutiful,sweet,caring woman,along with being a wonderful mommy, daughter, and wife.I would love for you to believe that because it is so true.I am so sorry the last few weeks have been so much more painful for you.I know you have really been pushing yourself and you need to ease up some.I love you and I am very proud of you.

  2. Honey,
    You are always my Pisces Princess! I Love You with all of my heart!

  3. You are a remarkable young woman. Your mother & I are proud of you.
    love, dad