Be who you are and say what you feel,
because those who mind don’t matter
and those who matter don’t mind.
- Dr. Seuss
It’s not the type of quote that is usually associated with Dr. Seuss, or at the least the type of quote I’m more familiar with. You know, quotes that are cute and/or silly and/or encouraging. I’m thinking of the quote seen in the picture below that used to hang in my classroom.
The quote at the top of this post could almost be described as snarky. Yet, the more I think about it, the truer it seems to be -- at least in regards to the people in my life.
It’s an accurate observation to share that as I’m getting older, my circle (of friends and family) has gotten smaller. And when I think about why, it all comes down to this quote. Because I had assumed that those who matter (certain members of my family and closest friends) wouldn’t mind my choices, my opinions, my decisions. Turns out I was wrong.
You know who I’m talking about. Those people that can see me with my hair in a bun, wearing my “comfy clothes” around the house. The people you don’t have to dress for. You let your guard down around these people. And then, when you’re at your most vulnerable, a judgment is made, a rift comes between you and these people, and then they’re gone.
It used to make me sad. If I fixate on it for too long, it still does. But then I think about my current circle. And I think of this Dr. Seuss quote:
When you think things are bad,
when you feel sour and blue,
when you start to get mad...
you should do what I do!
Just tell yourself, Duckie,
you’re really quite lucky!
Some people are much more...
oh, ever so much more...
oh, muchly much-much more
unlucky than you!