About Me:

Aloha! I'm Wendy Kennar. I'm the mother of a seven-year-old son and a wife living in Los Angeles. I was a public school teacher for twelve years until a chronic medical condition made it necessary to leave my teaching career.

I've always been described as "quiet" - really, I'm just biting my tongue. I've got lots to say, and lots of thoughts to share, I just prefer to write them. That's the purpose of this blog. Each Wednesday, I post a personal essay offering my observations and thoughts.

A few fun facts about me: I've wanted to be a writer since second grade, when my teacher, Mrs. Jones, made me a "book" with a yellow construction paper cover. I have never learned to whistle, have always preferred sunflowers to roses, and have spent my life living within the same zip code.

Through the years, my writing has been published in the Los Angeles Times, Christian Science Monitor, United Teacher, GreenPrints, L.A. Parent, DivineCaroline.com, RoleReboot.org, XOJane, and Brain, Child Magazine. Additionally, my personal essays have been included in several anthologies, including: The Barefoot Review, Beyond the Diaper Bag, Lessons From My Parents, Write for Light, Being a Grown-Up: A User's Manual for the Real World, Ka-Pow!, How Writing Can Get You Through Tough Times, Breath and Shadow, The Grey Wolfe Storybook, and Sisters Born, Sisters Found.
I am a regular contributor at MomsLA.com, and you can also find me at Goodreads.

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Wednesday, January 4, 2012

A Resolution


   They say when you write something down or say it out loud, it becomes more real.  So, this week’s blog references my new year’s resolution.  I’m sharing it, making it “public,” so that my readers who know me can let me know if I start to slip up and need a slight kick in the tush to get back into gear.

      So, here it goes.  

   I’m a public school teacher with eleven years experience.  The longer I’m teaching, the less I’m enjoying it.  And I spent part of this three-week winter break trying to figure out if it was possible for me to quit my job.  It’s not.  We have bills to pay.  And truthfully, I know that being a teacher offers perks (like said three-week winter break) that make teaching an attractive career for a working mommy.

   So, if I can’t quit my job, I’ve got to change the way I do my job.   Teaching, for me, is not an 8 am- 3 pm job.  It never has been.  That’s part of my problem.  I let teaching my students overwhelm me, until my days are consumed with caring for children - my son and my students.  Consequently, many other aspects of my life (my health, my sleep, my marriage, my writing) fall by the wayside.  

   2012 will be the year I set some limits.  One day each week - “Wendy-writing-date” after school.  One night each week, I will not grade my students’ homework (shh, don’t tell them).  One night each week will be a no-school-work-at-home-night.

   I will spend more time in 2012 doing things that make me happy.  Sitting on my patio.  Reading.  I will be more rested so that I do not fall asleep during my son’s bedtime routine.

   During this year-and-a-half medical odyssey I’ve been on, I’ve had some scary moments.  When we were awaiting results from one doctor, I knew that if he had “bad” news to tell me, I’d be quitting my job.  I wasn’t going to spend my limited time being unhappy.  (Thankfully, thankfully, thankfully I have been spared the “bad” news.)  But still, life is too short, and much too unpredictable, for me to be spending so much of my time and energy being unhappy.  That’s not the kind of mommy I want my son growing up with.

   Deep breath.  A whole new year’s adventures await!
   Wishing my readers a happy, healthy 2012 that sees all your goals reaching fruition!

4 comments:

  1. Honey,
    This Winter break has been a wonderful time for us and I am looking forward to our new adventures in this new year! I support you in whatever extra time you need to stay balanced in life. Your are the most amazing best friend, wife, lover, and soul mate anyone could ask for in life. Thank you for being you! I Love You!
    Paul

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  2. You are truly an amazing person.I am so glad to hear you will be taking more time for yourself which you certainly deserve.You go above and beyond as a teacher and after the year and a half you have had it is time to have more Wendy time.I hope and pray you will soon be pain free and never have to deal with all the medical issues you have had and are still dealing with.You are a blessing to all who take part in your life.I love you and I am very proud of you.
    love,mommy

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  3. Life is short. I never understood this until i became a senior citizen. I find myself reflecting on the accomplishments I have achieved. I have married well, I have beautiful children & Grandchildren. Do I wish things were better?, you bet!. I would wish for a pain free happy and healthly new year for my daughter. I know you are a good mother to Ryan and friend to your Mother. Your Mother & I are proud of you.

    Love, Dad

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  4. I am so proud of you!!!! I hope your free time includes many Johnny Rocket burgers, Coffee Bean drinks, Borders cookies, reading books and lots and lots of family time. I wish you happiness and painfree days ahead. Your kids won't know if you don't take home their work!! I love and miss you very much. I think about you all the time and you are always in my heart!!!

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